1989: Me: “Hey, are you coming to my wedding”?
Keith Stubbs: “Nah, I’ll catch the next one. You can always count on ol’ Jer to throw a weddin’ every couple of years”.
Good friends are so difficult to find. Everyone knows that, but there are some people who become life long friends, and we may not even know why.
There are certain aspects of a friendship which tells us whether or not it is a close one. The old phrase, “A friend in need, is a friend indeed” is so true. I have a couple of friends who I could and still can always count on in a time of need, and I’ve been able to be there for them, as well.
My wife, Keith Stubbs, Ron Ruhman, Dennis Pettingill and my brothers Jim and Fred are some of those people for me. They have proven it in the past. My children will always be there, as well, but I would only ask for prayers from them.
So, just how valuable are close friends? Extremely. Not only are they close friends there for you but it is reciprocal. You must also be there for them. I think that’s why they are so few and far between.
I do have other family members I can always count on and the thing people find hard to believe is that it is my first wife’s family. I’m still considered a part of their family and I know that I could count on them for just about anything. Pretty amazing people.
When we’re younger, we don’t seem to realize how special a great friend is. We know we love them and enjoy time spent with them and as we progress in age, we realize just how much they mean to us.
My best childhood friend seemed to disappear from the face of the earth. As easy as it is to find people in this cyber era, I thought it would be easy. I put an ad on Craigslist asking if anyone had seen him. His sister saw the ad and remembered me!
I couldn’t help but feel guilty that I didn’t stay in touch with him and be there for him when he needed help the most. His sister gave me his number, but he didn’t answer. I left a message for him, but he didn’t return the call. Bummer. I guess you can’t help everyone.
So to all of you who have ever helped me out I want to say thank you! I couldn’t list everyone but I know that many of you who read this blog have reached out to help financially, spiritually, physically to help us move and emotionally when things seemed hopeless. Thank you all. I love you.