I recently saw an aquaintence who said, “Wow, you look good”. I didn’t know whether to take it as a compliment or an insult, so I throat punched him, just to be sure.
I have to be especially careful with Heather. I think most husbands are in the same boat. My wife is beautiful, but thinks she’s a little over weight. (if she reads this, we’ll end up on “Dateline”. I’ll be the dead guy.
Last night, she was doing some work on her arms with a couple of weights. I was messing with my phone. She said, “My arms are fat”, which they’re not. Without thinking, I said, “They’re not as fat“. She said, “Not as fat”??? Uh oh, what have I done?? I knew it was a mistake the minute I said it.
Fortunately, I was able to quickly recover by telling her the truth. I said, “Honey, I keep telling you that you’re not fat at all”! It worked, and I live to see another day. Sometimes even a small word can be misconstrued and become an insult.
Another good example is seeing someone who has lost a lot of weight. If you say, “Wow, you’ve lost at ton”, that’s definitely not good. Instead, the best thing to say is, “You look great”! That way, they’ll know that you noticed, but you’re not saying that they were obese before.
Words can be powerful, but either good or bad, depending on the ones we choose. I’ve learned to really think before I speak, except for last night when I was distracted. Heather is sweet, so I didn’t even get the stink eye. Lucky me.