I have a friend who told his wife, “25 years ago we had a cheap apartment, a cheap car, slept on a sofa bed and watched a black and white TV, but it was OK. I got to sleep every night with a hot 25-year-old sexy chick. Now we have a nice house, nice car, big bed and plasma TV, but I sleep with a 50 year old woman. It seems to me that you’re not holding up your end of the bargain.” She said he could find another young hot chick and she would make sure that he would once again be living in a cheap apartment, driving a cheap car, and sleeping on a sofa bed . Mid-life crisis averted.
My friend is such an idiot. Who would say Something so stupid to his wife? Someone with a death wish, or worse? You praise your wife unless you don’t mind being single and broke. I know guys who talk the talk but are not stupid to actually go through with it.
Then there are there are the ones who actually do it. They get some strange sense of satisfaction out of it, albeit very short lived. I just don’t get it. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been married multiple times but only once was it my decision. I really didn’t think I had a choice.
Only once did it devastate me financially and I made a pretty fast recovery. Divorce is ugly and hurts a lot of people. No one is immune. Especially children. Everyone talks about how resilient they are but I don’t think so. I think it hurts them deeply and they just don’t know how to deal with it so they appear to be strong.
Somehow, their feigned strength helps us feel better. But sooner or later the pain will come out. Every kid acts out differently and it can sometimes be pretty tough. Cutting, drugs, alcohol, eating disorders, pregnancy, etc. The list goes on and on. It’s always best to get family counseling. Yes, always. Sure it costs some money, but who cares? It’s your family. Take care of them.
They won’t be ok without help from a professional. Look at me. I’m a loon. A moron. A guy who thought I could handle everything on my own. Crazy. I think I felt invincible for some reason. I really did feel like that unit my brain said “That’s enough”and brought me down -hard.
Now here I am, disabled but enjoying life again. It wasn’t easy. I went through years of torment. I wanted to end my life because I could no longer be the rock that my wife had grown to live in. I was no longer the “man’s man”. Over the years I learned how to write and discovered it is so much fun!
My wife went back to work full time at a job she loves and I’ve learned to adjust to my new role too. Life is not only livable, it is good! I’m loving it! Thanks to you, my friends and readers. Your likes, comments and your blogs keep me going. Bless you all!