We were enjoying a friendly conversation with a couple and I asked, “Fred, how was the memory clinic you went to?” “Outstanding,” Fred replied. “They taught us all the latest psychological techniques: visualization, association, etc. It was great.” I said, “That’s great! What was the name of the clinic?” He asked, “What do you call that flower with the long stem and thorns?”
“You mean a rose?” “Yes, that’s it!” He asked his wife, “Rose, what was the name of that memory clinic?”
It’s great to have good friends with which to do things. No matter how strong the marriage, it really helps to have at least one couple to rely on when you’re bored.
It’s really true. Without the companionship of at least one couple, there is only so many TV shows you can watch. So many empty nights of reading or posting on Facebook. Date night can help a lot, but even that can be mundane after a while.
But, when you have a “go to” couple that you can count on no matter what, it’s really cool. But what if that couple goes on a long vacation or moves out of state? You need at least one back up couple.
It’s a lot like dating. I always had backups, not when I was married, mind you, but when I was dating and not really seriously. So, I was never alone. There were always back ups. Is that cold? When I’ve been married, I never cheated, nor did I look for a backup.
I was committed. That’s not to say that there was no turmoil, because I’ve been married four times. I’ve been faithful every time. Other than two of them, I chose well. Life happens. It took me a while, but I have forgiven all of them and I hope they have forgiven me for my part. It is said that it always takes two to cause a divorce and I agree with that.
The same thing applies to couples. There are some couples that are great when you need a family atmosphere, others that have no children at home, which is the same with us. There are movie and dinner couples, which can be the same as the family couple, provided they are willing to get a babysitter.
If you’re smart, there’s no reason to feel alone, ever. There are also telephone friends, Facebook and Twitter friends. Some are superficial while others are the real deal. Good relationships are really hard to find, and because of that, they need to be handled with care.
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