I remember my Dad buying a new Mustang, and he didn’t want anyone else to drive it. He wouldn’t even let my Mom drive it to the grocery store. After she complained a lot, he finally gave in. Just before she left, he said, “Remember, if you have an accident, the newspaper will print your age!”
Some people are really sensitive about their age. Others are fine with it. Actors are particularly sensitive, which is understandable because they need to be able to play roles within a certain age range. Actors rarely say how old they are.
I’ve known men and women who lie about age, weight, shoe and clothing sizes. It’s really kind of sad. I guess they’re not very comfortable in their own skin, so being less than truthful helps them feel better.
I’m 58 years old, soon to be 59. Although I would love to find a fountain of youth, I like my age. I’m comfortable with who I am, for the most part. I wish I was thinner, but I can fix that. I wish I didn’t have age spots on my face, but I do. I could fix those, too, but I refuse to have surgery to remove them. I’m ok with me.
My first real job was selling shoes. One day, a lady came in and asked for a certain style in a size 6. One look at her feet told me that she wore an 8. I brought out an 8 and put them on her feet. She walked around and told me how comfortable they were.
She said she would take them and as was boxing them up, she saw the “size 8” written on the box. She went nuts! “A size 8?? I specifically asked for MY size, which is a 6!!” I reminded her that she said how wonderful they felt. “I was swimming in those shoes! You’re the professional, you should have noticed”!
I apologized and took them back to the stockroom, where I put the size 8 in a size 6 box. I brought them out and she checked the box to be sure they were a 6. I put them on her feet, she walked around the store and said, “That’s more like it! These feel so much better”. Fiction was better than the truth for her.
I don’t know why she thought that way. Maybe someone made fun of her shoe size. Who knows? People “tell the truth attractively” all the time. The square footage of their home, job titles, salaries, etc.
NBC news anchor, Brian Williams, was recently suspended for six months for lying about being in a helicopter that was shot down while he was covering a war. The truth was, he was in a group of three choppers, but he was not in the one that was shot down. No one but Williams knows why he lied about it.
He seemingly had everything, including frequent appearances on “The Late Show, with David Letterman”. He is a very funny guy. I haven’t walked in his shoes so I won’t judge him. It makes me wonder what may have happened in his past to cause him to tell that tale.
Can we just be comfortable with who we are today? I’m not saying I have never spun a yarn or two, because I have. We all have, but some can’t seem to stop. We all have acquaintances who have climbed Mt. Everest, joined in the running of the Bulls, met a superstar… Things you know they didn’t do. Somehow, it makes up for the inadequacies they feel in their lives.
If that is you, please stop. You’re fine just as you are. You are important just being who you are. You are loved.
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